Anger Management Skills

By Ceri Jones

Many learned people, so-called experts, philosophers and the rest, inform us about anger and anger management skills, but do they give you the inside story? There are people all over the world with anger issues, some mild, some extreme and some which are within the normal bounds of the emotion of anger.

We hear about all the symptoms of anger, which include kicking, fighting, slapping, verbally abusing, physically abusing and mentally abusing. We hear reports from around the world about the many episodes related to violence in the criminal world. Finally, we hear many reports about how to deal with anger using anger management skills.

However, anger is an emotion that acts on impulses. Anger is a good thing, until it becomes uncontrollable. This happens when a person feels unhappy and acts on the impulses of his or her emotions radically. However, there are some persons who get angry as a direct result of putting things off.

We can see it in an example with the person that gets angry with a cable company. Say, the person has been dealing for more than three months with issues involving a cable company, herself and a third party. This person was paying a bill which included channels ordered by someone else but the company refused to give a selection of channels she ordered in her own name.

She went through a series of processes, and finally, after she had done as instructed, the company advised her that she would have to pay for what had already gone on. In other words, she would have to pay for all the channels on the bill, only some of which she had ordered. Now, she was not in a position to do much about it since she did not live at that address. Finally, she blew her top and told the company off, walking quickly out the front door, mumbling you stupid bloody idiots.

This person was pushed to anger and this happens too many times in society these days, yet the world only sees the angry persons. We can look at other theories about anger and anger management skills, and see that the blanks are not filled in. When a person has an anger issue, he or she does not necessarily have that problem everyday. Rather, in most cases the person builds up to the point of exploding.

Often a person will go for a week, month, or even longer before they explode in anger. If the person has mental illness, alcohol or drug problems, this contributes to the anger issues, however in many cases the person does not get too angry every day.

So, we can see that not only do we need to teach anger management skills to contain anger; we also must teach people to approach each problem as it occurs. Procrastination comes in many forms and it includes putting off emotional issues until they are too hot to handle. Many violent people often have a dangerous mental illness underlying their anger. Many people that are angry because of procrastination have a degree of control, and it usually does not lead to anger.

However if a person is pushed hard enough this may occur. Anger is involved with the process of expressing emotions, however when a person is angry they may have difficulty relating to the underlying reason for the anger, which means that they have poor anger management skills. - 31520

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